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why do we gossip?

OG Samovar
1 min read

been thinking about the role gossip in communities. it's not just small talk.

it's a form of social capital.

a currency that can change the game in subtle ways.

in spaces where relationships are already complex, gossip can morph into a tool for strategic manipulation.

it's not just sharing info anymore.

it's about altering reputations and even the core values that hold a community together.

so why do we gossip?

motivations range from:

- group protection

- status enhancement

- social bonding

each has its own ethical weight, especially when the stakes are high.

group protection sounds noble, right? but it's complicated.

where do we draw the line between safeguarding the community and unfairly stigmatizing someone? it's a murky ethical terrain.

status enhancement is tricky. it's about climbing the social ladder by pulling someone else down. in communities that claim to value growth or unity, this is a glaring contradiction.

social bonding is a double-edged sword. sharing secrets can create closeness but often at someone else's expense. is integrity a price we're willing to pay for intimacy?

personality traits like hedonism and narcissism in the scene can make things worse. they fuel gossip and make people more vulnerable to its harms.

it's a feedback loop that can make a community increasingly toxic.

how do we navigate this? open forums and meaningful dialogues can help. they bring issues into the light and allow for multiple perspectives. it's a long game but worth it for the community's well-being.

at the end of the day, the currency of a community should be trust, not gossip. trust is built on understanding, empathy, and open dialogue.

if there's no capacity for it, this community shouldn't at least preach integration, trauma awareness, and all these fancy stuff ~ they're better off becoming a political party.